In my last pregnancy update, I hinted at a big change in our birth plan coming up. As you can see from the title, we’ve decided to switch from a hospital birth to a home birth.
I have always wanted a home birth with a midwife. My mother had four of her five kids at home with a doctor or midwife. I was her first home birth and I love the pictures of her and my dad and newborn me snuggled up on the bed, cozy and comfortable at home.
I’m a homebody, an introvert, and I hate hospitals. With my three previous hospital births, I have always requested an early release and have checked out of the hospital about 12 hours after giving birth each time. I just want to be home, in my own bed, being cared for by my mom. No nurses coming in at all hours. No loud sounds from the hospital coming through the walls. No uncomfortable hospital beds. I want to be home.
I also love the relationships that you get with a midwife. I’ve had midwives for my last two hospital births and they were both great. However, I delivered with a midwife group, so there was very little, if any, prior interaction with my midwives. My mom developed a wonderful friendship with the midwife that delivered my little sisters. I crave that.
My husband and I had discussed paying out of pocket for a home birth before we knew we were expecting this little one. He was completely supportive of the idea. However, I felt somewhat selfish and guilty for spending all that money on what I wanted. We could use that money to help pay off our school debt faster. We could use that money for a family trip to Disneyland. I knew what I wanted, but I couldn’t get over feeling selfish about it.
My husband has good insurance coverage with his work and we are very blessed by the generosity of his employer, but we are limited to one insurance group and hospital. (Not the hospital based birth center that I’ve delivered my last 2 kids in – which I loved.) I’ve been happy with my care and our family doctors, however, I have had many friends deliver at the hospital we have to use, and I know that it is NOT my ideal birth environment.
I’ve had a friend who has had two of her births at that hospital all-naturally, so I was encouraged that it was, indeed, possible. She had to fight a bit and sign some liability forms, but she was able to get the natural birth she wanted. So, I was prepared to fight to make the situation work.
However, a couple weeks ago, I decided to call to make sure that everything we thought was covered by our insurance plan (which said it covered all prenatal appointments, etc.) was actually covered. I learned that although all my appointments, labs, tests, etc were completely covered by our insurance before meeting our high deductible, the actual birth was not. We would have to pay our full deductible before they would cover the rest of our labor, delivery, and hospital fees. So, I learned, that it would actually be significantly cheaper for us to pay out of pocket for a home birth instead of using the hospital.
I was really excited! The search for a midwife started immediately!
We live in a more rural area, so finding a midwife that delivers here, even when only a couple months pregnant, can be a challenge. But I had the additional challenge of finding a midwife that delivered locally AND had availability in just TWO short months! After making a lot of calls, I finally found a midwife team who could take me. I set up a meeting with them the following week.
Before the meeting, I prayed that God would give me a feeling of peace if this was the right place for me. In previous pregnancies, I’ve met with providers before that I was not comfortable with. I couldn’t tell you why, but I had an uneasy feeling after our meetings. I didn’t want that to be the case with this meeting, but I prayed for God to make it abundantly clear to me. And it was.
The two midwives work together, are licensed and certified, of course, and have birthed over 1000 babies between them. The meeting was relaxing and peaceful. Addamay played happily and I talked about my previous births and why I wanted a home birth. I felt comfortable and at complete peace with the situation.
Now it’s time to get serious! In the next few weeks I’ll be ordering the supplies for my home birth kit, picking up one of the birthing tubs that they provide for their clients, and generally getting everything ready for our birth!
I’ve had friends tell me I’m brave for not having the option of pain relief during labor, but really I’m not worried about it at all.
God created women to give birth. It is completely natural and something that women have been doing since the beginning. I’ve given birth completely drug free twice already and my third birth was my easiest yet.
Of course, some women have high risk pregnancies and really should give birth in a hospital setting. I, thankfully, do not fall into this category. I have very easy pregnancies and somewhat easy births (not counting the useless interventions in my first birth). I don’t think any birth is exactly “easy”.
I am not afraid of not having an epidural. I’ve given birth with an epidural and without – I much prefer doing it without – but, that is a post for another day…
So – that’s our big news! I’m so excited that I’ll be finally getting the home birth I’ve always wanted!